Can only see "Inbox" and "Deleted". No sub folders I created in Hotmail on my computer are viewable on my Ipad

I'm trying to recover deleted emails from yesterday. I do not have a Recover Deleted Emails option in my deleted folder. Please help!
I've just accidentally deleted an important email containing an Xbox Gold redemption code from my deleted messages folder before having used the code!! Is there a way to get it back please? I've read that the microsoft staff may be able to help?
In my version of 2011 Outlook for Mac the Deleted email folder is called Trash and will not empty when quitting Outlook even with schedule to empty.  I can only manually delete emails in this folder.  However when I mark an email to be deleted (from another folder) it does not show up in the Trash folder.  
I flagged an email and then accidentally deleted it with other emails I did not want to keep.  All of the deleted emails wound up in the deleted file, but the flagged email disappeared.  I tried it with several other emails (flag the email and then hit the delete button), but I cannot find any of them.  Please help me recover the flagged/deleted emails.  Thanks.
I know with my Windows Mail (and we used to do it at work...) you can set things up so that you know when the email you sent is Read/Deleted etc.  Is it possible to prevent this notification being sent to the sender? 
 Thanks.
J
Outlook for Mac 2011: Some folders (not all) on my computer are duplicating themselves. Deleting one duplicate results in both copies being deleted. If I rename or move as a sub-folder, clears for a time but then returns (out of the blue) as duplicate folder (never sub-folder). Not every folder seems to do this e.g.

Inbox
- Folder 1 < original as subfolder
Sent
Draft
Deleted

Folder 1 < duplicated
Folder 2
Folder 3 < original folder
Folder 3 < duplicated folder
Folder 4
Folder 5

running Outlook for Mac 2011 version 14.2.5 on Mac OSX Snow Leopard.
Hope someone can help! Thanks.
Outlook (mac 2011) shows 1 unread email in Inbox and in Deleted Items. Deleted Items is empty while I've marked all items read in Inbox (several times) and deleted and downloaded all items from server.
If I delete someone do I disappear from their contacts and can they see if I am on line still!!!
How do I delete messages permanently so that they cannot be recovered from within Hotmail?